I was asked recently to write a piece about navigating new experiences, by Sensuali, a website which aims to help people safely and pleasurably explore their desires. I think this info is much-needed so am giving a preview of the piece below, and if you'd like to read the whole thing you can click through to Sensuali (free).
The world of sex: huge, diverse, juicy and waiting for you to explore. As you’re here on Sensuali, I’ll assume you’re keen to seek out new experiences… or at least are in the early stages of considering doing so.
Like lots in life, in order for such experiences to go well, some forward planning and mental preparation can really help. We tend to imagine ‘good sex’ should be easy, spontaneous and wordless… but as a sex coach, I know that’s not how it works. Communication is essential whatever your style of encounter, and planning too, especially when aiming to keep things hot in a long term relationship or trying something new. Of course those two things often go hand in hand!
Here are some factors to think about in advance when considering a new experience:
Understand WHY you want to try this
Get clear on your boundaries
Consider how you will communicate before, during, after
Take things slooooooooowly
Prepare both your body and your mind
Exploring with a partner? Ensure you're in a good place together first
Acknowledge - and learn from - your nerves
Plan good aftercare
To read more on all these points, head to the piece on Sensuali by clicking here.
