"I feel sexier, full of self-acceptance and I'm opening up to experiences I'd always fantasised about"
"I'd started to experience something of a crisis of confidence in my sexual identity and attractiveness since reaching my forties. Ruth had a natural ability to put me at ease and I found myself confiding in her about things I'd never told anyone. After years of putting my needs after that of my partners' and always having felt fearful of being 'slut shamed' for my sexual desires, it was a deeply liberating experience to be able to be honest and frank.
Since working with Ruth, I feel sexier, full of self-acceptance and I'm opening up to experiences I'd always fantasied about, but hadn't had the confidence to voice. I'm loving the new 'me' and my partner has been very pleasantly surprised by my new-found confidence!"
“At 50, I felt as if sex and eroticism were no longer for me - but now I know there is (sex) life after divorce”
"After a 20-year marriage that ended in divorce, I felt completely terrified about all aspects of getting into a new relationship, with sex being at the top of my fear list. All sorts of past anxieties, judgements and self -criticism had come up for me, as well as the fear of not being 'good enough', 'experienced enough' or confident enough. Opening up to someone about sex and admitting my naivety, was way out of my comfort zone. But as I spoke to Ruth about my innermost thoughts, I could feel myself growing in confidence and realising that actually things weren't as bad as my mind had made them. My fear of rejection was normal and commonplace. Asking for what I want and being bolder in bed suddenly seemed possible.
Ruth was unphased by anything I said, and was able to reflect my words back to me with precision and clarity. I spilled out a huge bundle of tangled thoughts and she was able to find the thread quickly. I loved the way she seemed to get into my head and kept the focus on the challenges and themes that were important to me, even when I veered off course sometimes. To be listened to so deeply was a gift.
At 50, I felt as if sex and eroticism were no longer for me, but now I know there really is (sex) life after divorce, and sex is there in abundance to be explored, enjoyed and anticipated with pleasure, not trepidation. I feel truly ready to fully embrace my sexual side, and connect with my inner goddess!"
"I looked at things deeply, rather than just skimming the surface for easy answers"
“Through coaching I hoped to get clarity on how I could move forward with my focus area, which was something I had felt 'blocked‘ about for some time. I was looking both for more understanding but also some concrete action to take.
Ruth helped me to prepare for the session with guide questions. I felt super clear on what to expect from the process so I went into our session feeling confident and excited. Ruth's calm, non-judgemental presence made it really easy to open up and her questions were challenging in a good way, encouraging me to look at things deeply rather than just skimming the surface for easy answers. It felt like a really safe space for exploration.
After the session, Ruth followed up with suggestions to help me towards my goals. These were not things that I would have been likely to find myself and so were particularly valuable. I went away feeling really positive. I had three really clear ways forward that I was excited to work on, one of which I had taken action on before the end of the day!”
“I have reached new levels of intimacy, communication, honesty, expression - and most of all - JOY!”
“I'm polyamorous and have long-term relationships, and also am actively dating. I was very experienced sexually and in some ways thought that I didn't need coaching - but at the same time I was facing some real frustration around dating, relationships, eroticism, and sex.
I started our first session saying that I didn't expect transformation, and was laughing by the end of it because there was massive transformation. Ruth helped me look at parts of myself I didn't know were in play, and once I saw them in action, I let them go and they disappeared. I literally came out of our first session a different person from who I was going into it.
Ruth has a unique ability to blend objective coaching with intuitive, emotional suggestions. The combination provided powerful insights about how I was being in relationship. Each session left me with homework, which made the experience much more than just learning about myself.
Ruth is authentically non-judgmental, experienced, knowledgeable, patient, focused, empathic, intuitive, and has a deep, calming, almost hypnotic presence that delves through defense mechanisms and blocks. I have had experience with a wide range of coaches (and even therapists) and she's the best of them. Through Ruth's coaching I have reached new levels of intimacy, communication, honesty, expression - and most of all - JOY!”
"It felt like a sensual awakening"
"I booked the striptease lesson because I was curious about how to own my feminine energy, to create a dance that felt sensual for me and would look good for anyone who might eventually watch. Some good moves for a striptease feel like something sexy and empowering to have in my repertoire. I wouldn't say that I'm the most naturally graceful / flexible / lithe human being, so I was a bit nervous that I might struggle with the moves. But Ruth made everything seem super-easy.
I enjoyed watching Ruth and then dancing with her, to music which we had chosen together. It felt like a sensual awakening. Two particular concepts stuck with me after the lesson which are soooo effective! I’d recommend a lesson to anyone who is curious about the power, energy, and sensuality of their female / femme body, and who wants to harness that for their own pleasure and empowerment. One word to describe the experience? Empowering. And extremely sexy (because one word doesn't really do justice to it!)."
"Now I know if I can ask for what I want in the bedroom, I can ask for it anywhere else"
"I have been working with women for years and I know the topic of eroticism and sex is something they often struggle talking about - though if asked whether they happy with the way things are, the answer would be 'no'. I knew bringing Ruth to them [on my Facebook Live] would be a game-changer. She has this crazy amount of knowledge, but more importantly - she listens and never judges.
Ruth made me see how there is no shame in wanting to create a better sex life and how skills we use in the bedroom are transferable to other parts of life. Now I know if I can ask for what I want in the bedroom, I can ask for it anywhere else. I coach women on creating more fulfilling lives and when the subjects of sex, eroticism and wanting more in the bedroom come up - Ruth will be the person I will happily direct my clients to."
"My guests loved hearing Ruth talk and went away more knowledgeable and also curious"
"Ruth has spoken at my Supper Clubs twice. She really knows her subject inside and out. She has a warm aura and her eye contact is direct but soft - she has a lovely calmness about her that makes her approachable. She has a way of making everyone feel comfortable and welcome. Everyone felt at ease to ask questions to understand the topic. My guests loved hearing Ruth talk and went away more knowledgeable and also curious which is great - the subject had everyone thinking."
"I ultimately learned that it's all down to confidence and attitude"
"My striptease lesson with Ruth was a magical experience. I had never done exotic dance before - or even been to a strip club - but she made me feel completely at ease. I learnt smart and simple tricks that I can actually perform but ultimately learned that it's all down to confidence and attitude. Fully recommended to anyone who feels curious and wants to improve her/his self-confidence, and abandon taboos."