Question 1

“Ruth has helped me get out from under guilt, shame and fear” Campbell , 44

Accepted Answer

“I am so glad I found Ruth.  I am a 44 year old, married male, and my sexual life has included challenges, successes, and lots of questions.  Ruth has given me a sense of peace that there is a place for my ideas, desires, and fantasies to exist in a healthy way.  In fact, a welcome learning from Ruth is that my thoughts, desires, and sexual fantasies are actually a gateway to deep connection with my wife and to my own personal self expression.

Ruth is a trustworthy and compassionate guide.  She represents what is possible in the wild world of sexuality, and yet having a conversation with her is very grounded, adult, and mature.  Thank god.  
Ruth has helped me get out from under guilt, shame and fear, and she has helped me build courage to recommit to my own sexual health.  Best of all, Ruth has helped me see that there is a huge opportunity to share all of this with my wife and for us to grow together!  At midlife, the best of our sexual lives is yet to come.  Wonderful news.”

Campbell Gerrish, 44, Life & Leadership Coach

Question 2

“I obsessed over ‘what if I can’t get hard or stay hard?” Adrian, 39

Accepted Answer

“I was nervous about opening up to Ruth about my many insecurities and worries around sex. But there was a huge sense of relief to at last be taking action around the problems I had always experienced.

The biggest thing I learnt in my first session, was that I was normal! Things that I had got so in my head about and thought were personal failings, I understood are experienced by many men. I also got rid of some of my sense of guilt and failure that I did not somehow just ‘know what to do’.

From there, it was a case of unlearning everything I thought I knew and starting again from scratch. But starting again in a world where the expectations on me – and on certain bit of my anatomy – are so much less heavy than before.

I now go into situations that might end up in the bedroom, feeling much more relaxed and open minded than before, looking forward to fun and connection instead of being filled with dread and obsessing over “what if I can’t get hard or stay hard?”.

It was so valuable to have a woman’s perspective and to be able to ask Ruth questions. She was very professional as a coach, but at the same time I felt she really cared. I never had the opportunity to talk so openly with a woman. I didn’t feel judged and opened up to her about things I had not expected to.
There are many things that I wish I had known a couple of decades ago. Life would of been very different. But at least I know now, and I look forward to putting them into practice.”

Adrian P, 39

Question 3

"I was a disconnected and frustrated widower" Peter, 64

Accepted Answer

"Working with Ruth has been a transformative experience. I came to her as a widower, feeling disconnected and frustrated around my intimate life, unsure of how to move forward. From the very first session, she created a safe, non-judgmental space where I felt truly heard and understood. Her compassionate  approach and deep expertise helped me explore the root of my concerns with honesty and clarity.

Through our work together, I’ve gained confidence, improved communication in my new relationships, and developed a healthier connection with my own sexuality. She gave me the tools to break through barriers I didn’t even realize were holding me back. I now experience intimacy with more presence, trust, and joy. I’m so grateful for Ruth's support and guidance throughout this journey. I can honestly say my life has changed for the better. I highly recommend her to anyone seeking meaningful growth in their intimate life."

Peter R, 64

Question 4

“I've spent time and money with escorts: Ruth doesn't judge” Michael, 68

Accepted Answer

“I’m a 68 year old straight male who's been on the dating scene for over 50 years. I grew up unsporty and into nerdy things; went to an all-male school; mainly-male university; and into a male-dominated work environment. Attractive women have been rare in my world and when I have met any, I’m been smitten - but it has never gone anywhere. Consequently I have spent quite a bit of time and money with escorts.

Ruth understands why and doesn’t judge. I booked a couple of one-hour coaching sessions with her almost as confessionals, about things I have felt were forbidden to talk about.

Ruth has helped me explore what I most want going forward - a committed relationship – and steps to get there. I am now signed up with a matchmaking agency. I realise there will be a transition to make, if I am matched successfully, between those paid-for 'moments' and 'real life' sex. At which point I will book another session with Ruth for support around that. It is invaluable to have such a genuinely non-judgemental ear to confide in."

Michael H, 68, retiree

"Ruth has helped me get out from under guilt, shame and fear... She offers genuinely non-judgemental support" - Campbell, 44

“Ruth has helped me get out from under guilt, shame and fear” Campbell , 44

“I obsessed over ‘what if I can’t get hard or stay hard?” Adrian, 39

"I was a disconnected and frustrated widower" Peter, 64

“I've spent time and money with escorts: Ruth doesn't judge” Michael, 68

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